Being Receptive Vs. Being Dumped On

Being receptive or being dumped on can seem very similar to the one receiving.  It can often feel like in order to be receptive or open to receiving love you must also be open to receiving anything.  Feeling dumped on energetically, verbally, emotionally can feel absolutely disgusting.  This has been a pattern that women are supposed to be these vessels for dumping; you can see the reflection of this in the trash sites that we have on Earth just dumping out our crap.  You yourself must take your power back to stop being dumped on.  I know it can feel challenging because any attention/energy can at times feel better than no attention even if that means being dumped on.  And if you do the dumping you must begin to take responsibility for your own pain and sit with it as if it was a wounded child that needs care. In both cases the dumpee or the dumper, must reclaim their own autonomy and internal power.  
For some, they are capable of receiving anything because they are able to transmute any energy and come from the place that energy is energy is energy meaning there isn’t “good” or “bad” energy.  If you are not at this place of capacity it is extremely useful to “bounce” energies off of you that you don’t want to receive.  It is completely ok to pull out your Kali sword of rage and hold your own boundaries.  Let’s say someone is being cruel to you and in the past you have felt you should just take it, it's easier and you still love them.  In fact when you don’t listen to yourself you are disrespecting yourself regardless of their needs/wants/desires.  If someone is crossing a boundary of yours you can take your energetic sword and cut through the bullshit of yourself and the other and say NO!  This in a softer way is creating a bounce effect so that the other’s energy does not come into yours.  In some way you are saying NO! Whether that be soft, aggressive, loud really whatever works.  And then, this is essential, return to the receptive openness that is natural to you. 

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